The most important thing to remember is that when you're online, you're out in public. Never communicate anything on the internet that you wouldn't want known to the public at large. You should also remember that people you meet online might not be who they seem to be. It is easy for someone to tell you they are your age, in the same grade at school, and share the same concerns as you. However, it is quite possible that person is entirely different than you, and everything they say is done to mislead you.

1. Don't Let Anyone Know Who You Are

If you're in any type of public forum (e.g.: chat, e-mail, etc.) avoid giving out your full name, your mailing address, your telephone number, the name of your school, or any other information that could help someone determine your actual identity. The same applies to your family and friends. Never reveal anything about other people that could possibly get them into trouble.

2. Never Get Together With Someone You "Meet" Online

The biggest danger to your safety is if you get together with someone you "meet" online. Remember, you never know for certain if people you meet online are who they say they are. If you do feel it's appropriate to meet with someone, discuss it with your parents and never go to the meeting by yourself. Arrange to meet in a public place, like a coffee shop or mall that you (not just the other person) are familiar and comfortable with, and never go alone. The safest procedure is to have your parents talk with the parents of the other person and for both of you to bring your parents along on the first meeting.

3. If a Message, Newsgroup or Chat Comment Makes You Uncomfortable...Don't Respond

Some people write things that are mean or hostile. It isn't your fault if you get a message like that, or if it makes you feel uncomfortable in any way. If you get such a message, don't respond. Instead, show it to your parents or a trusted adult to see if there is anything you can do to make it stop. Sending a response just encourages the person.

4. Find Out What Your Parents Think About About Going Online. What Are Their Expectations?

It's important that you and your parents agree about your online activities. This includes when you can go online, how long you can stay online, and what activities you can do online. Communicating with your parents doesn't mean that you have to give up your privacy. It just means that you come to an agreement based on mutual trust and understanding. While you're at it, perhaps you can help your parents better understand the Internet, what it can be used for, and how it is helpful for teens.

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